JOINT ACCOUNT ROCKS ............

Love is blind, especially when it comes to finance. However, money has always been a discipline that requires both eyes wide open. Many couples who are more caught up in the throes of their new relationship than in planning realistically for their future open joint accounts, only to find out later that they have put themselves in a disadvantageous situation. And contrary to popular belief, relationships do not have to sour for a joint account to be a bad idea, although, of course, the joint account does make breaking up even harder to do.

IS ORAL SEX A SIN ?

“My partner and I love the Lord with all our hearts and we don't want to do anything to sin against Him. Our question is in the area of oral sex. Is it scripturally wrong? Some have tried to make a biblical issue out of what parts of the body a married couple can and cannot kiss. In their minds, there is only one biblical form of sexual expression in marriage, sexual intercourse. They attempt to defend their viewpoint on biblical grounds—trying to make it into a holiness issue. However, is there anywhere in the Scripture putting such limits on the sexual relationship?  It is important to remember that God created sex to be a beautiful expression of love. When the husband or the wife does not feel that sex is a "beautiful expression of love," then changes need to be made in that couple's sex life. Evidentially, the actions are not mutually beneficial to each person. Nothing in the Bible says that oral sex is a sin; however it may not be appropriate for every couple. I AM YET TO FIND IT ANYWAY.

TRUTH HURTS, LIES HURT .................

Have you ever watched the early auditions on American Idol? I know, Painful! It begs the question, why didn’t any family or friends tell those poor souls that they can’t sing!? Why must Simon be the one to break the news?

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your boss is obviously not saying the truth and you dare not say what you know?

How about in your marriage? Are you totally honest with your spouse? Your expenditures, your past, your current extra-curricular activities. Why does it seem that we have so many secrets?

Would anyone want to hear?

·         You are not as attractive as you used to be.

·         I sometimes think about someone else during sex.

·         I sometimes wonder why we are together.

·         I have a little crush on someone at work.

WHY AM I STILL SINGLE ?

It is the number one question that singles get asked, especially if you are over the age of 30: why are you still single? It has many variations, sometimes phrased as a comment, rather than a question – “I can’t believe a nice girl/guy like you is still single,” followed by the more direct and probing: “When do you think you’ll get married? “As mature singles, we ask the exact same question –but not to each other. Rather, we ask ourselves in times of loneliness or frustration: “Why am I still single?”

GENOTYPE OR LOVE …WHICH COMES FIRST?

We fell in love when were younger. We were two love birds just like Romeo and Juliet. Couldn’t spend a day without each other .Whao! Love is a beautiful thing. The feeling can’t be described. He’s a good man; he is a very handsome, tall and disciplined guy. He is many things most girls would want their man to be. We are matured enough to get married since that has always been our dream.  The GENOTYPE issue came up. “For two young people working towards marriage, it is crucial for them to know their genotype BEFORE the happy event. It is very important for them to understand what they are getting into. We went for complete blood test , every other things were ok except for the GENOTYPE which is ''AS'' for both of us.  

SELF ESTEEM

Recently, I was romantically involved with a man I enjoyed immensely. Little by little, I began to fear FEELING GOOD. I started to wonder, “This relationship feels amazing, what will I do when this ends?” So, as a way to control the issue I found a way that I would self-sabotage the experience by rejecting him before he could reject me. He would tell me that he was falling in love with me and I would just blow it off and say to myself, “He can’t be serious, this is just something he is saying to play me. Once I let my guard down and believe him then I will be vulnerable and he can hurt me. So, it’s better that I just keep a little emotional distance so it won’t hurt as much when it happens.”

"FOR I HATE DIVORCE," SAYS THE LORD.

"If things don't work out we can always get a divorce." All too often these days we find that this is the unspoken attitude of persons contemplating marriage. The "old-fashioned" ideas of "for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" don't carry much weight in our society any more.  I tell my friends that divorce is not an option for me but they always tell me “wait until you get there “and I pray never to get to the point of considering a divorce.

WHO IS YOUR FRIEND?

Children who meet for the first time will often go away after 5 minutes of playing in the sandbox and say something like, "My friend, the boy I was playing with just now, I think he is very nice". It's funny how children like you as long as you don't hit them and you agree to play with them... those are the only requirements to be their friend. As we grow older we complicate everything with more expectations and demands. Nowadays, friends seem to be the ones that will stab other friends in the back, be the ones that will steal and take from a friend. Friends are the same people that will go behind your back and tell everything you confided in them about. Friends use to be the one you could turn to no matter what and know that there are no judgments passed between the two of you. This subject is important to me because I have some friends that mean me no good and I have some friends that would do or say anything to help me become a better person. What kind of friends do you have?