WHO IS YOUR FRIEND?

Children who meet for the first time will often go away after 5 minutes of playing in the sandbox and say something like, "My friend, the boy I was playing with just now, I think he is very nice". It's funny how children like you as long as you don't hit them and you agree to play with them... those are the only requirements to be their friend. As we grow older we complicate everything with more expectations and demands. Nowadays, friends seem to be the ones that will stab other friends in the back, be the ones that will steal and take from a friend. Friends are the same people that will go behind your back and tell everything you confided in them about. Friends use to be the one you could turn to no matter what and know that there are no judgments passed between the two of you. This subject is important to me because I have some friends that mean me no good and I have some friends that would do or say anything to help me become a better person. What kind of friends do you have?

 

I have been called the friend that will keep it real so let me keep it real. Why do you consider someone that wants to hang out and do the opposite of what you know you should be doing to be successful, a friend? What kind of friend would tell you to cheat on your man or woman? What kind of friend would tell you to keep drinking when you are already wasted? What kind of friend uses your downfalls as a way to boost them up? What kind of friend will introduce you to a drug that you know you have no business doing? What kind of friend would lead you into a dangerous and demeaning job? It is easy for a friend to lead you astray because you trust that person and you really do not look at them as taking you to places you have no point being. We are always looking for comfort that when we turn to a so called friend that is not a true friend, you seem to fall deeper or not even solve the problem you had in the first place.  

 

A friend is supposed to help you better yourself. A friend is supposed to help you grow and do better. A friend should give you as much as you give them. If you are the type of person that is a giver then you know that people will begin to realize that and take! Take!! Take!!! Is your friend the type of friend that would give her last and pray for a turnover? Truly, that is what a friend should do. Why do you think you are surrounded by certain people? Why do you think you might get a large lump sum and a couple days later, your friend needs a loan to keep their home? You are surrounded by people to help them, and those around you should be just as willing to help you out. You are given wealth, wisdom, and experience to share and spread with those that are in your life. So if you are the kind of friend that would give and you are surrounded by friends that won’t, they need to be eliminated. You really should not have fights with friends. There should be no falling in and out of friendship. Everyone must come into agreement that it is okay to disagree but bashing someone or turning on them is not part of a friendship and unhealthy for a relationship. You should always be on a path to success. If people, things to do or places to visit do not line up with your goal of success, throw it away. If your friend is causing you more stress than relief, let them go. If you are a friend, you should seek wisdom for that friend in need. You should know when opinion is unnecessary and when honesty is demanded. You should care about other people circumstance and feelings. 

How can you pinpoint and eliminate those bad friends out of your life? First of all, who is standing out in your mind after reading this?? Why are they in your mind? Is it because they uplift you, drop everything for you, or would do anything to help you? If so, you know that these people would be considered as your back bone. Now if you have someone in mind because they have helped bring you down, always there to keep you in some mess, always basking during your misery, or if they are never there when you really need them, then those are the shackles holding you back and leading you into destruction. Many people believe that you are the company you keep so keep that in mind when you surround yourself around certain people. If your friend calls you a friend when they need you but can’t be reached when you need them, that is not a good friend. If someone is quick to speak down on you instead of uplifting you, you need to let them go. If someone is dishonest and breaks your confidence or sleeps with your lover, let them go!? Life is full of so many people and you have to believe that you deserve to find a better friend to replace that person.

 

A friend should be like family. It should be someone that you never judge no matter how they may screw up.? Or someone that you support no matter how wacky their idea may seem. Or just someone that you love unconditionally, no strings attached, and regardless of their faults. The only difference is that you have the option of choosing those people, so use discretion. Be smart and know that if they are not with you, they are against you!? Realize that your friends will either help you reach higher levels or add more weight, making it harder to get up to where you want to be!!!