My mom always told me to stay out of online chat
rooms.. But like every other babes, I did it anyway . I have been in contact
with Tunde for the past 18 months,
chatting online. . A few months ago we
met, and really hit it off. I have met him a few times since, he's lovely, nice
personality, great sense of humor and we have a lot in common..he's polite and
is a real gentleman..I had initially thought
that I was imagining his bad breath.... The last visit which was a few days
ago, left me quite repelled as he seems to have a serious halitosis problem
that he is not aware of. The sad thing is that other than that, he is
absolutely wonderful, but I really feel that I will be unable to go on with a
person who has such bad breath. I asked myself if I am being too choosy or if
it can be managed . Does he even know he has this problem ? .Hmmmm
I discussed with a couple of friends and find below what they said to me
You tell
him as kindly and directly as possible. Try to be humorous; first tell him of some of your own “blind spots”
and ask if he is “open” to hearing some you have noticed. If this relationship
progresses to levels of greater commitment and deeper love, you are going to
have to have far more difficult conversations. This conversation will be good
practice for what is to come .
Be blunt! You’re both mature adults ? And I’m assuming life
has taught you both that there is never a need to “beat around the bush” at
this age. Having bad breath is like having bad body odor, your always the last
one to know (or so I’ve heard). So in the grand scheme of things, and it
sounds like this man is “absolutely wonderful” as you say, telling him he has
bad breath will probably be one of the easiest relationship issues you’ll have
to address together. And this is nothing that couldn’t be solved with, like
gifting your boyfriend with a year’s supply of Cool Mint breath strips. Orbit
Gum won't be a bad idea .
After
eighteen months chatting online and then meeting him and enjoying the times together, you have probably
communicated to him your enjoyment of the relationship. It sounds as if you
like each other. It’s with that in mind that I suggest that he might appreciate
your honesty about how you are struggling with his bad breath. Telling the
truth to someone (not in a critical manner) is one of the healthiest things you
can do for yourself as well as the other.
I guess they make sense after all.
This is so hilarious considering the fact that be it a classy or sassy gurl,there r no rules to bad breathe and wor makes it even worse is pple often don't knw when they have a terrible breath.my advice to the gurl who it took 18 months to find out would be to help the dude out if she really likes him like she claims..love is blind bt can smell..lol
ReplyDeleteBad breath is a terrible thing to deal with. You have to sum up courage and face it. Get to talk about issues, like your everyday conversation and chip in a dental topic, tell him to assess your mouth and your dentition, do the same for him and somehow uld find a link to fill in the obvious... Suggest hw many times he needs to brush, d kind of toothbrush and paste... Not gonna be so hard to deal with... Trust me...
ReplyDeleteDon't you think he will be embarrassed and make him think less of himself ?
ReplyDeleteNot really, i don't think he will be embarrassed at all. You both are grown-up.
ReplyDeleteBad breath has many causes, including the following:
Cause #1: What you eat, or don’t eat
The cause: Certain foods, particularly garlic and onions, are notorious for creating bad breath.
The solution: Use mouthwash.
Cause #2: Dry mouth
The cause: When your mouth is extremely dry, there isn’t enough saliva to wash away food particles and bacteria. Over time, this excess builds up, causing not just an unpleasant smell. Both stress and breathing through your mouth can also be causes of dry mouth, and certain medications have dry mouth as a side effect. Smoking leads to dry mouth and bad breath, as well.
The solution: Stay hydrated by drinking an adequate amount of water (eight glasses a day are recommended). Limit caffeinated and alcoholic beverages, as both contribute to dehydration, as well as sugary and acidic juices (tomato, orange, grapefruit, etc.) that can also contribute to the problem.
Cause #3: Morning breath
The cause: Since your mouth produces less saliva while you’re sleeping, food particle bacterium multiply more quickly than they do during the day. That’s why bad breath odors are typically worse when you first wake up.
The solution: Start each day using mouthwash, it’s great at killing bad breath germs and provides a long-lasting fresh feeling for up to 1.5 hours. To minimize the effects of morning breath, brush your teeth thoroughly twice a day and floss daily to remove all food particles.
Cause #4: Infrequent flossing
The cause: Small particles of food that get stuck between your teeth and around your gums. These are tricky places where toothbrushes can’t quite reach. When food particles are left behind, they start to collect bacteria, which in turn causes bad breath and plaque.
The solution: Make sure flossing is a part of your everyday oral care routine.
Cause #5: Plaque buildup
The cause: Infrequent flossing can lead to this problem. This issue is nearly universal because bacteria are constantly forming in your mouth. These bacteria use leftover food particles and saliva to grow. When excess food particles and plaque they may cause cavities and bad breath.
The solution: Gentle, daily flossing is the best way to help remove the food particles that lead to excess plaque.
Cause #6: Smoking tobacco, drinking wine, and sipping coffee
The cause: Cigarette chemicals like nicotine and tar accumulate, contributing to dry mouth and intensifying bad breath. Smoking also leads to major discoloration of teeth, creating a yellowed appearance. Coffee and wine are also big contributors to dehydration, bad breath and discoloration. Both are highly acidic, causing tooth enamel to break down over time, and when that happens, they absorb surface stains more easilyi.
The solution: Refresh stale breath and whiten away stains at the same time.
Cause #7: Tongue bacteria
The cause: Bacterial growth on the tongue accounts for 80-90 percent of all cases of mouth-related bad breathii.
The solution: To minimize bacteria on your tongue, consider using a tongue scraper
Cause #8: Not knowing the facts
The cause: Almost 50% of Americans have bad breath at some point in the day, but many don’t realize it or understand its causes.
The solution: The best way to improve bad breath is to follow a thorough oral care routine. Twice-daily tooth brushing and daily flossing gives you the confidence you need. Rarely, bad breath can be a sign of a more serious medical condition, so it's important not to ignore the problem.