SO YOU EARN MORE THAN HIM ……

I know when we get married my money becomes our money and his money becomes our money, but what do you do when you make more. Money is a touchy enough subject for people in love and there are plenty of chances for complication. Statistically speaking, one spouse will always make more than the other since the odds aren’t exactly in favour of a couple making identical salaries. That being said, I question my own difficulties with being the primary breadwinner.

LOVE THEM NOW ..................

On October 10th 1992, my father died. I left him at home looking healthy .I was far away in boarding school  when I heard he passed on .He was my best friend , my life line . His memory  stays fresh in my head . I love him so much . He thought me how to be mischievous and that is who I am today .

BAD BREATH

My mom always told me to stay out of online chat rooms.. But like every other babes, I did it anyway . I have been in contact with Tunde  for the past 18 months, chatting online. .  A few months ago we met, and really hit it off. I have met him a few times since, he's lovely, nice personality, great sense of humor and we have a lot in common..he's polite and is a real gentleman..I had initially thought that I was imagining his bad breath.... The last visit which was a few days ago, left me quite repelled as he seems to have a serious halitosis problem that he is not aware of. The sad thing is that other than that, he is absolutely wonderful, but I really feel that I will be unable to go on with a person who has such bad breath. I asked myself if I am being too choosy or if it can be managed . Does he even know he has this problem  ? .Hmmmm

I discussed with a couple of friends and find below what they said to me

LIFE AFTER RAPE

 

I was only 20 years old and just wanted to have a good night with my mates. We were having a pretty good time and went to the club at about 10:30, as usual. At about 1 am, I got into an argument with my best mate about her boyfriend and went outside the club . This was when my attacker came across me sitting on the edge of the pavement. He came up to me and asked me why I was upset. He seemed nice enough and calmed me down: I'd got myself really wound up. Afterwards, I always wondered why my judgement was so bad, he seemed so nice.He said he'd help me find the rest of my friends and  I went off with him. After all I had no reason not to trust him. He led me to an uncompleted building saying he could hear voices and I wondered where we were going. I got a bit upset and he said it was OK and kissed me. I was OK at this point, a little wary I suppose, but then he started getting more intense and I started panicking. I knew from then what he was going to do. The next thing I know I was telling him "no" and getting more and more upset until I was physically pushing him away from me. He was too strong for me and I was extremely distressed at this point. He then raped me, holding me down. 

RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE INGREDIENTS.......let's discuss pls

What do you consider the most important ingredient in a relationship/marriage to make it work ? In my opinion ,a good relationship is virtually impossible without good communication. It is important for couples to realize that whatever you plan, think or feel, it will directly or indirectly affect your mate. One rule of life is that whether it is business or personal, knowledge is power. The more you know, the better you can prepare yourself to act accordingly. The most important quality in your relationship is how well you and your mate communicate and relate with each other. Effective communication is the lifeline for every relationship. Communication means talking, listening, reading body language, understanding, learning each other's sexual behavior and caring about what the other is saying. Also, for a relationship to grow, couples should share activities and interests that are both meaningful and enjoyable to each of them. If a partner is always giving in to what the other wants to do, this will eventually lead to feelings of resentment. It is true that opposites attract, but you and your mate must have enough qualities in common to sustain a long-term meaningful relationship.

WHEN LOVE TURNS TO HATE .

I have been in and out of relationships  .Breaking up with a partner can sometimes be traumatic. Even though you saw it coming or made it happen yourself, you may not be ready for the impact of the break-up. Suddenly you are alone and no longer part of a couple. It feels like a giant missile burst up on your life crushing your dreams and aspirations, leaving your daily existence a strange and difficult place to be.  So when I hear 'I wish him dead, "I wish him dead, I hope he dies soon', I do understand where that's coming from. But in all honesty many don't mean what they utter but the anger, hurt, insecurity, sadness, depression, self-revulsion and rage. in them that talk.

WHY IS PATIENCE A VIRTUE?

                                             

Suppose a person awaits the arrival of a friend she last saw in her teen age from out of town at a train station, and all of a sudden discovers that the friend's arrival would take longer than anticipated due to unforeseen but inevitable reasons, the person sits patiently at the station longing for the reunion and patiently distracts herself with reading a newspaper,  a few peeps at other people waiting at the station or simply reminiscing and hoping to share such fond memories with the friend as soon as she hops off the train.

10 WAYS TO LIVE LONGER

1. DON'T OVERSLEEP: Sleeping too much can reduce life expectancy, according to a February 2002 study in the Archives of General Psychiatry. The study found that people who sleep more than eight hours per night had a significantly higher death rate than normal. But late-night-party-goers shouldn't rejoice: researches say that sleeping less than four hours also increases death rates. People who sleep between six and seven hours per night were shown to live the longest.

SHOULD YOU DIE TODAY, WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS?

 
What a horrid thought! Try asking this question to Nigerians and they are likely to break into chants of prayer; you are not supposed to mention things like that. Does the thought of writing a will or any talk of death at all make you feel like you are courting or tempting fate? You better face the reality!


Deciding on a legal guardian to care for your children if you should die, or worse still if your spouse or partner dies as well, is one of the most important decisions you will ever face as a parent. Don’t just assume that our extended family social system will make things easy and your mother or perhaps your brother will automatically take custody. Unless you specifically name a guardian in your will, a family member can step forward and the court will determine who is the most appropriate to perform the role.