WHY ARE WE NOT PRACTISING THE SAME RELIGION?

Foluso and Quadri  have been dating for seven years. They did not consider their backgrounds, all they wanted was to be joined as man and wife. Eventually they did, their sweet love became bitter. Usman wanted  his children to practise Islam, while Foluso wanted Christianity. They dragged this for years until Foluso couldn’t take it anymore, she moved out. The once upon a time love song ended with a dirge .

 

I accept that marriage is good, but that it is better if the two practiced the same religion.“I am not condemning inter-religious marriage, but in a situation where the two are not well accosted with one another’s beliefs, you find the woman, in most cases, subjecting herself to the man’s religion.”
 First, let's remember that religion isn't like a pair of shoes that we change depending on the occasion. Religion is something of the heart, similar to love. Loving our partner and loving our God . The primary question you must address isn't what religion your parents or his parents want you to be, but what religion do the two of you want to embrace together.

A muslim friend of mine who is deeply in love with her Christian fiance asked what she should do because breaking up isn't an option for her  and here goes what we came out with :  

The number one way to get along in your relationship, when religious differences are present, is to first learn to tolerate the differences with respect. You may not believe the exact same way, but if you love a person, you'll tolerate them and what they choose to believe. To tolerate is different than full acceptance. You may not accept what they believe, but because you love them, you choose to accept them.
Be open to learning about what they believe and why. Once again, though you may not fully understand their faith or belief system, at least attempt to find an interest in what they believe. Provide them the same openness and share your beliefs and faith with them. If both of you are Christians, but come from different denominations, at least you have the basic foundation of Christ as your point of belief. If you're a Christian and your mate is a Muslim, or some other non-Christian faith, the challenges may be greater. Try to learn about their traditions, their yearly feast days, and any other customs that are different from your own.

 I am not here to preach "not been equally yoked with unbelievers" because I won't judge anyone . Its your choice

 
If you plan to have children, hopefully you've already discussed in which religion the child will be taught. If you haven't yet discussed it, better get started. It might be tough reaching a satisfying compromise, but with both people keeping the child's best interests in mind, it shouldn't be impossible. 

All the best to those in the same situation but i don't envy you .