MARITAL VOWS...........

" FOT BETTER FOR WORSE! TILL DEATH DO US PART" does this vow still hold water in this generation.

When you got married, you made wedding vows that went something like this: "I (your name here) take you (your spouse's name here) to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live." On my wedding day, these wedding vows seemed like the most important words I'd ever spoken. But after having been married for two years, I wonder how well I actually uphold my wedding vows on a daily basis.

Over recent years we have observed what we consider an alarming trend among  us, the young couples as we make the huge step of making vows in the wedding ceremony before our family and friends. We sincerely promise to “lovingly lead” (the guy) and “willingly submit” (the girl)

Do we think through what these words mean in real life, everyday situations ? How can a  husband know he is leading in love and not just doing/saying what he considers is best for his wife?

How can a wife know she is submitting willingly without subduing her own walk with God and leaning on her husband?

Consider trying out these simple ways to honor your wedding vows each day.

 

Spend some time snuggling

One of my wedding vows was to have and to hold my husband from this day forward. We spend a lot of time together, but we often go too long without actually holding each other. When was the last time you and your spouse spent some time in each other's arms? To honor your wedding vows, consider engaging in some form of physical affection every day. Hold hands, snuggle up on the couch, go to bed at the same time, or even just give each other an extra long welcome-home hug.

Concentrate on the simple things

Another of my wedding vows was to stick with my husband for richer or for poorer. If we ever made it to "poorer," how would our relationship look? We often spend our time plugged into electronics, and we fret over relative luxuries in life. When was the last time you and your spouse lived as though all you had was each other? To honor your wedding vows, consider spending a few quality minutes doing something simple together each day. Chat over a homemade dinner, discuss something you read that day, or take a walk outside and reconnect.

Implement a daily check-in

One of the wedding vows I may sometimes take for granted is to honor my husband in sickness and in health. I think this wedding vow is referring not only to physical health but also to each spouse's mental, spiritual, and emotional well-being. When was the last time you asked your spouse about his day and really spent time with the answer? To honor your wedding vows, consider implementing a daily check-in. You might set some time aside to allow each spouse to share successes, fears, failures, and goals, and discuss ways you can each support one another.

 

 

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulties and fear assail your relationship, as they threaten all relationships at one time or another, remember to focus on what is right between you,
not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives...remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together,it will be marked by abundance and delight. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. Matthew 18:20

 

 

 

It's easy for wedding vows to become nothing but lip service, but your marriage doesn't have to be that way. Hopefully by keeping your wedding vows in mind each day, you'll have no trouble with the last one: to be together as long as you both shall live!